Or to put it another way: would the writer, when giving the tip to listen better, have respect and give more compliments, have considered for one second that I had already kicked in this open door myself? Did you ever think that if I agree with it and if everyone else agrees with it, then you are actually adding nothing at all? Just to be clear: if you want a few likes, you can just continue doing this. A large part of the audience is apparently not that smart or does not really want to be made to think. I read these kinds of reactions: ‘Yes, listening. So important.’ Or this one: ‘Yes, nice that you are asking for attention for this.’ And of course the inevitable: ‘So true.’
The problem with kicking in such open doors is not only that I as a reader think: man, who are you talking to? overseas data The problem is also that you flatten reality to a simplicity that it simply does not have. Not even in your own life.
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Remember life is a tween wanting to listen (of course), but not feeling like it at all. Because, as I read recently: if you really listen, you can also hear something that really upsets you. Something you don’t feel like hearing at all. Or you discover through listening that you really don’t like the other person. You listen and think: school email list now that I really let what you’re saying sink in, I actually know: you’re a whiner. A huge whiner. And we don’t fit together at all.
Listening is not easy at all and by ramming that open door in a post you pretend that it is. In this way you ignore the tough task that is being human.
Giving is not easy at all
Not necessarily. What if you are in a phase where you feel deeply misunderstood? Where you are not seen at all miss moss illustrates and produces stickers at home or at work? Do you continue to give with tears in your eyes? Life is full of heartbreaking dilemmas, with ugliness, with rawness and we are not as neat and tidy as we pretend to be.
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